REASON #011 – A MEMORABLE FIRST EXPERIENCE: I think it would be a good idea to wait until marriage to have sex because the first time is always something you would want to remember, and if the person you marry is your first, then you will have so many memories that would help your friendship and marriage.
REASON #012 – BOUND TO MY CHILDREN’S FATHER: If I would have waited to have sex, I would not be in the situation I am in now. I’ve been with my children’s dad for years even though I’ve outgrown him. I feel obligated to stay with him for the sake of my children. Maybe Mr. Right has already passed me by. Maybe I’ll never know.
REASON #013 – A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH AN EXOTIC DANCER: I am convinced that I should have waited to have sex, because as a young man I made a choice to have sex with a young lady who was an exotic dancer. I ended up having a one-night-stand with her in which I was unprotected. Feeling nervous I went to the doctor to get a check-up. I ended up being free of disease but my poor choice could have changed my life forever. In addition, I could’ve gotten her pregnant and had a common bond with someone that I had no intention on marrying.
REASON #014 – SEEKING A PLEASURABLE EXPERIENCE: I think that you should wait to have sexual intercourse with another person, because you do not experience the full on pleasure as you will with your special someone.
REASON #015 – SEX DIDN’T YIELD LOVE: I was looking for reciprocity; just wanted to have the feeling of being love returned to me. Even though I really didn’t want to have sex with the guy I was dating, I did, in hopes of gaining his love. When it didn’t work out, I tried again with the next boyfriend. I was leaving pieces of myself behind with each guy that I had sex with. I began to realize that I wanted more. I wanted a different story than everyone else. I wanted to be able to exchange 100% of me for 100% of whomever I married instead of short changing myself and him. I realized I could get that reciprocity without having sex and I decided that waiting until marriage was the way to receive it. — Monique
REASON #016 – FATHERS WALKING OUT ON THEIR CHILDREN: I think it is important to wait because when you are not married and have a baby, so many of the fathers don’t want to claim their kids, and when you are married then the father will maybe claim them. — Jamian of Detroit
REASON #017 – NO ONE TOLD US TO WAIT TO HAVE SEX!: I didn’t want to, but then again I did. I had been exposed to sex so many times between the age 5 through 9. It was in my mind, but not in my heart to do it. I was 15 and I had been messing around with my boyfriend. He wasn’t pressuring me and I wasn’t pressuring him either. But neither of us had anyone tell us that it would be best for us if we waited. No one told us anything. When we finished – I hated him. I literally despised him. When I think about it today, I guess it was really me that I hated. –Donna of Detroit.
REASON #018 – COUNTERFEITS WILL NOT STEAL MY GIFT: The Reason why I’m glad I waited and am still waiting is because sex complicates a situation. You think you know someone and you find out you don’t know them as well as you thought you did. When the relationship is over and things didn’t work out, it seems harder to walk away when sex was in the picture. You walk away knowing that they have a piece of you and you gave them something valuable that should have been a gift to your spouse. I want to wait because I want to present my most valuable gift to my husband. I want to tell him I waited for him. There have been counterfeits that have tried to come and take his gift, but I waited for him. — R.R. of Oklahoma
REASON #019 – MY MALE RELATIVES PUSHED ME TO HAVE SEX WITH A LOT OF WOMEN: As a teenager and young adult man I was encouraged by male relatives to deceive women and have sex with as many as I wanted. Although I did not lie to the women I dated, I compromised on many occasions. Part of my dilemma was not just the misinformation I received, but the assertiveness of the women I encountered. I was more about developing a meaningful friendship than sex, which attracted them more, because I was not anxious about sex. It not only affected my emotional health and level of stress in my life, but it affected those of the women. As a Christian, I knew it was wrong.
I decided over time to abstain for many reasons:
1. I love God
2. I love my neighbor enough not to put them in harm’s way!
3. I love me
4. It becomes easy to evaluate your courtship with clarity and without emotional bias.
5. Avoidable stress is eliminated.
6. Physical well being not compromised.
7. No guilt trips or blackmail
8. Reduce slander (keep a good name)
9. No children out of wedlock
My wife and I courted for 2 years/7 months without sex. We are happily married today, with a healthy romance and two happy children.
REASON #020 – MY OWN MOTHER TOLD ME THAT I “DIDN’T” HAVE TO WAIT: Why did my Mom tell me I didn’t have to wait? Why did she tell me that I was so desperate for attention that I’d give myself away to the first boy who showed me any interest? I wanted to wait. I wanted to be a princess when I walked down the aisle. I wanted my husband to be the first one who touched me. I wish I would have waited. If just one person I respected had encouraged me, I could’ve have been that princess.
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