REASON #001 – BOUND TO A STRANGER: I was at a gas station when I saw a female with a body that caught my eye. We exchanged numbers and a few days later we hooked up and had sex. I had no intentions on ever calling her again, but about 8 weeks later she called me…to tell me she was pregnant! Now, I have a son with someone I discovered I have absolutely nothing in common with, and frankly would NEVER want to be in any kind of relationship with. That was 13 years ago and although I love my son very much, today I still wish I hadn’t let “a nice body” lead me to do something that bound me to a stranger forever.
REASON #002 – WHY I SAVED MYSELF: I have many reasons why I waited, but I will list my top 3 reasons. The number one reason that I waited was because God’s Word asked me to wait. Intimacy is for the married. I believe I belong to my husband and to him only. There is honor in marriage and sex is sacred within that marriage.
The second reason that I waited was because I respected myself. I felt if I respected myself that others would as well. I find that very much to be true. The third reason is because I have loved and I wanted my love to mean something to the person that I’m with. If I love respect and honor, you then I want that same love respect and honor returned.
Those are my top three reasons why I waited.
REASON #003 – PHYLLIS SHARES HER STORY: When I was alone with him that Friday night, he made me feel special. He made me feel loved. But that Saturday morning, I just happened to be riding the bus downtown and I saw him walking down the street hand in hand with another girl from our high school. I thought I was the only one. I thought he truly cared about me. I knew I should have waited. So even now, as a married woman of 15 years, I still find myself at times confronting sexual insecurities. Not being able to give myself totally to my husband because I gave so much of myself away over and over again prior to my marriage.”
REASON #004 – A 34-YEAR-OLD MOTHER OF TWO SHARES HER STORY: When I was 16, I got pregnant. I decided to get an abortion. I didn’t want to do it but I thought it would be too hard to take care of the baby at that age. I didn’t tell anybody. I was trying to hide it from everyone. After the abortion, I felt horrible. The second time I got pregnant, I was 18. I had to drop out of school because I was sick all the time. I regret not finishing school because my full time job became taking care of my child. I was responsible for everything for my kid. It was as if I had no help at all. Every doctor appointment, every time the baby cried, it was all on me.
REASON #005 – JANE DOE/ 34-YEAR-OLD MOTHER OF FOUR: I remember so many times just feeling like a used rag that someone just wiped their greasy hands all over. I couldn’t take back what I did, but I just wanted to be better. I wanted 2 love myself enough to say no. I thought I was going to be loved for making him happy. Instead I just kept getting hurt over and over again. I gained nothing but hard times for the decisions that I made as a teen. Those decisions are still running my life today. I wish I could do it over. I was 14 when I lost my worth. He climbed on top of me in my sleep and I pretended that I did not feel him. I didn’t even open my eyes, even when it hurt. After he did what he did he got up and the next day when I saw him it was as if it never happened. That was my first.
REASON #006 – EIGHTEEN-YEARS-OLD WITH 2 KIDS NEITHER PARENT WANTED – I remember feeling worthless, thinking, “Who is going to want me? Who is going to love me for me?” That must be why I felt I had to do all that I did. At that point, I had already giving in to what everybody else wanted. I was 16 and he told me he would love for me to have a son for him. He said it would make him the happiest man on earth. By the time I was 18, I was all alone, raising 2 of his kids that I didn’t even want. What’s worse is that he went on with his life as if he didn’t have a child in this world. Each time I laid down, I stripped away a little bit more of my self-worth, and I kept asking myself, why can’t I even say no when I don’t want it?”
REASON #007 – NO INDEPENDENCE & NO COLLEGE DEGREE – I was 17 years old when I lost my purity. I lost it in June, I was pregnant by November. I went to a private school and was college bound. The week I found out I was pregnant, my college applications and essays were due. I planned on attending an out-of-state school. I wanted to travel and be an independent young adult. Instead, I only applied to a local community university. I was not able to focus on school with a newborn baby. I didn’t finish school. I didn’t get to be an independent adult. I have been a mother my entire adulthood. I do love my son, but if I had waited I could have provided a more secure beginning for him. If you think that you are not going to be the one to get pregnant, it can and will happen to you. It only takes one time to get pregnant. There is not a birth control that is 100% effective, except waiting. — Carrie, Detroit, MI
REASON #008 – RAISING KIDS ALONE – Being a single parent is a huge life-long responsibility. You alone are responsible for a human life. Being a single mother for the last 34 years, I understand fully now that God’s plan for the family unit is to have a two parent home. Please, please believe me that God’s plan is the best plan. — Detroit Mom
REASON #009 – IS IT LOVE OR LUST? – It would be best to wait to have sex until marriage to avoid relationships built on a foundation of lust.
REASON #010 – SEX AT 17 LANDED ME IN JAIL – I was on the phone with my girlfriend and I told her I was going to run away and she said come and get her. So I went over there and we were talking and kissing. We started having sex and her dad walked in. He called the police and they arrested me. My girlfriend was 14 and I was 17 at the time. Her dad said he was going to press charges. They decided not to press charges later on but I had to spend some time in jail and my aunt had to pay $750 to get me out. I still have to go to court about this. — 18-year-old Detroit Male
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